Busy Bee.

I know it has been a few days since the last time I posted for you all, but as the title says I have been quite the busy little bee. My birthday, looking for a new place with the husband, and preparing for my much anticipated trip back to California.

Well anyways I had my twentieth birthday this last week. It was great, my husband and I went to dinner with another military couple to an amazing teppanyaki restaurant called Hakata Japanese Steak House. If you are in South-Eastern North Carolina, I definitely recommend going. The cook was great, he was so entertaining and the food was absolutely delish. We had such a good time. On the other had, I was kinda sad not to be at home with my friends and family on my birthday. I miss them more than anything. I’m sure you can all relate to this, but I know that there are going to be many more birthdays to spend with them and I need to make the most of my situation here. Not everything can go my way, I think I am finally starting to realize this. That’s a good this I suppose.

Second on the list.. finding a new place. I couldn’t even begin to tell you how many different apartment complexes my husband and I have been to in the last few months. It was starting to get frustrating after a while and everything began looking the same. After a while I started feeling like we were never going to find a place, but then we struck gold. We found a cute little town house with the help of a realtor and put an offer in. We have our fingers crossed that we get it. Hopefully we'll know by today.

Lastly, California is only a few weeks away! I think I am way too excited about going to visit my family and friends. I never thought I would miss my home town so much, it’s a weird thought. I'm glad that while I'm there I will get to see my nephew play soccer, be at his birthday party, be there for Halloween (my favorite holiday), and my sisters birthday. I thought I was going to miss all of this, but I guess I got lucky... Oh and we are also taking family pictures for the first time in over seven years. I cannot wait!

In the next few weeks I’m probably not going to post because as you can see I have a lot of going on, but don’t fret because when I get home there will be something new for you all.

Separation?

This isn’t going to be a super long one, but it’s my food for thought today.

So is it really such a bad thing that I want to keep my California life and my navy wife life separate? I really don’t think so. This has been something that’s been on my mind for the last week now and kinda bothering me too...

As my twentieth birthday is quickly approaching I’ve been starting to evaluate the person I’ve become in the last year. Before I moved to North Carolina, I was the youngest daughter, the babygirl, the little sister, the student/classmate, the friend, but now I have a new title. I am the wife, the homemaker, the support system, a grown woman.

I’m not the same person as I was back in California and I’m not quite sure how I feel about that. Yes, I have grown and matured which is a good thing, but I feel like I don’t quite act the same.

Now, I’m not going to lie sometimes I ask myself ‘why did my heart have to fall in love with a military man?’ but don’t get me wrong or misconstrue my words in any way because I love my husband and would do absolutely anything humanly possible for him without a second thought.

And yes, I love my family and I love my friends but sometimes things just change. Not for better or worse, they just change. I wonder what it’s going to be like when I go back to California in a few weeks. The other day in the car I asked my husband if he thought it would be different when we went back and he said, “Yes.” And that’s what started this whole thought about my two different lives...

Blah, Blah, Blah.

October, already? I can hardly believe it. Where did this year go? I couldn’t tell you. It seems like the months are flying by faster than ever lately. I’ve already been in North Carolina for almost four months now... sheesh! Although I haven’t been here long I’ve heard so much hear-say, it’s kinda comical actually.

Anyways, so I’ve seen this A LOT lately and thought this would make a great blog for you all.

Lets face it we all know that not everyone is cut out to be a military S/O, but that doesn’t mean you need to completely bash it publicly. I know, I know people are just ignorant but still...

As I’m sure most of you know (and if you didn’t, now you do) I am an avid Facebooker. I like to keep up with what’s going on in my friends and families lives even though I am not so close to them anymore, I also have fellow military wives from all over. I know you’re probably thinking get to the point already, so here it is –

what absolutely gets under my skin is when wives complain about other wives and how catty they are on FB. Yes, I do understand how frustrating it is, believe me I do. But do you not get that you are only fueling their fire by talking about it on Facebook? Because you are. Yeah, you think you are just speaking your mind, but no – you’re just sinking to their level.

They feed off of your reactions. It is just like high school and it will NEVER change. Not everyone is going to try to be your bff and not everyone is as nice as they seem. This is the real world people. I get the whole trying to make friends as soon as you move to a new base because the instability of this life can break some people, but for goodness sake use some intuition and good judgement.

Now, I’m not trying to be all negative nancy here... I do know there are some genuinely good people out there and I’ve personally met a few wives that I would not trade their friendships for the world.

Just act like the adults I know you are and put those big girl panties on.

“Nobody said this was gonna be easy...”